girl rant ahead, watch out!

in girl world, there seems to be two distinct varieties: the genuinely nice and the genuinely insecure.

genuinely nice girls don't hold anything back from you. when you look nice, they tell you. when something really great happens to you, they congratulate you. when you do a good job, they're happy for you. when something you did was pleasant and inspiring, they make an effort to thank you. genuinely nice girls are flowing with compliments.

genuinely insecure girls hold back on compliments as if they were Mr. Scrooge hoarding his precious coins. these girls are selective about saying something nice about another girl, because to them it would be like admitting they were not as nice looking, not as great, not as pleasant. this type of girl is also judgy and snooty and quick to put someone down, BUT, all in a carefully planned out nicey-nice vague way, you know what i mean? they're all sweet and sugary on the outside, but the more you get to know them, the more you don't like them.

i am so sick of the girls in the latter category. these girls make crappy friends.

sometimes it's hard to tell what friends are in what category, but i've gotten better at discerning. a really beautiful friend of mine modeled for a while. my take is that she had a similar theory on the two types of girl varieties and had a great test for figuring out what girls were worth keeping as friends or not.

when telling girls for the first time that she was a model, she'd carefully watch their reactions. there were always two kinds, girls who would genuinely be interested, get excited and ask her questions, and then there would be girls who would just promptly fold their arms, sit back and not say anything. they'd just sit there with a look on their face that said something like, "i'm impressed but whatever happens i'm not going to show it, i won't, i won't, i won't, i'm also jealous, so if i show i'm impressed, it will make it look like i'm admitting she's beautiful, way more beautiful than me."

ugh, makes you shudder doesn't it?

i may have devised a test, too ... oh, i admit, i definitely straddle both sides, i'm guessing we all do, but my hope is that i can consciously make up my mind to be the kind of girl who is more like the genuinely nice variety. in my opinion, it's unhealthy to hold back something nice. just say it. let it out. get over yourself. get some confidence. grow up. realize that uplifting others will also uplift YOU.